My partner and I are nine months into this whole parents-of-two thing, and while we can’t remember our family without our spunky and happy girl, having one more baby in the mix definitely adds to the adventure and craziness of this life.
It’s wild to see just how much our son and daughter build off each other. Our daughter, of course, wants to do everything her brother does. Currently, one of their favorite games to play is to crawl down the hallway after each other, peals of laughter consuming them as they move from room to room.
There are dozens of these little moments that make my heart swell with happiness, and in the same vein there are a dozen more that make me feel like I’m losing my mind. Life of a mom, right?
Here are 11 truths I’ve come to realize as a momma of two under two:
1. The strength of their bond.
Watching them play or my son helping his sister or my daughter’s look of concern when her brother is crying (likely from a tantrum, because terrible twos) makes me so happy because they’ve got a forever friend in each other.
2. As fast as you attempt to clean, your kids are two messes ahead of you.
It’s basically a never-ending cycle of making messes and trying to clean them up.
3. They can and do work in cahoots.
Kids know and recognize each other to be the same. Case in point, both kids know that the dirt in our flower pots are off limits, yet my daughter always crawls over and grabs a handful because she loves that it makes her brother laugh. And he in turn, encourages her by gleefully giggling as I tell her, “No.”
4. You will stress eat.
My particularly hard days always seem to occur when we’ve got no snacks in the house or right after my husband throws out the extra chocolate in an attempt to help us be more “healthy.”
5. Simultaneous naps are as rare as a unicorn sighting.
When it does happen I use that time to Netflix binge and relax. Or begrudgingly tackle something on my to-do list.
6. They keep each other awake.
If one child is sleeping you better believe the other will take that opportunity to want to play with said sleeping baby. Every. single. time. Doesn’t matter if it’s my daughter who’s awake and her brother asleep, or vice versa, both babies do this.
7. Time flies even faster when there are two.
Maybe it’s because you’re way more busy. I’m still trying to wrap my mind around the fact that my son is turning TWO next month and my daughter will be ONE two months later. What??
8. Making time for sex gets a little tricky.
Because now you have two babies, most likely on different sleep schedules (definitely our case). And if they both prefer being in your bed, rather than their cribs, and you’ve only got the two bedrooms and a small living room couch…then the floor becomes your go-to spot.
9. Some nights everyone has mac and cheese from a box for dinner.
If you add broccoli, it goes from basic to gourmet. #parentinghacks
10. Some days are hard.
Like sit on the couch, crying, hard. But then your babies cuddle you and in those few moments your world brightens.
11. As much love, laughter, and light one baby brought to your life, two doubles it.
There’s nothing like seeing those two smiling faces looking up at you with all the love and adoration only children can give. Or when those little hands take yours in theirs or the sweet smell of their hair as they nuzzle their heads into the crook of your chin and fall asleep on your chest. For all the ups and downs parenthood brings, there’s an influx of love and joy.
Ravelle Worthington is a wife, mama of three, and the Founder of Mommy Brain. Follow her on Instagram here.
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